Things I No Longer Feel Guilty About (And Why You Shouldn’t Either)

For so much of my life, I felt guilty for things that, honestly, I had no reason to feel guilty about.

Saying no. Prioritizing my peace. Asking for help.

Somewhere along the way, I learned that being a good person meant saying yes to everything, pushing through exhaustion, and carrying the weight of everything on my own shoulders. Sound familiar?

But over time, I realized that constantly feeling guilty for putting myself first wasn’t serving anyone (not me, not my family, and definitely not the people I was trying to help).

And you know what? Letting go of guilt isn’t selfish. It’s necessary.

The Moment I Stopped Feeling Guilty for Saying No

I remember a time when I was completely overwhelmed…trying to balance work, family, and my own personal growth while also saying yes to every request that came my way.

One week while I was working full-time, I had a packed schedule and was already stretched thin. Then, my boss asked me to take on just one more thing, something that wasn’t urgent but felt like an obligation.

I wanted to say no. But that familiar guilt crept in…

"If I say no, he’ll think I don’t care."
"I should be able to handle this."
"It’s not that big of a deal…right?"

But deep down, I knew that saying yes would mean sacrificing the little time I had left for myself and my family. So, I took a deep breath and simply said:

"I can’t this time, but I appreciate you thinking of me."
The moment I said that, I felt I pit in my stomach. “Who was that?” I thought to myself. But I then I felt a sense of relief.

And guess what? The world didn’t end. My boss didn’t hate me. And most importantly, I felt free.

What I’ve Learned About Letting Go of Guilt

✅ Saying no doesn’t make you selfish. It makes you intentional.
✅ Prioritizing your peace doesn’t mean you don’t care. It means you value yourself.
✅ Asking for help isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom.

I see so many coaches, leaders, and entrepreneurs struggling with this same guilt. They feel like they have to do it all, that taking a step back or asking for support somehow means they aren’t capable. But, you don’t have to do everything alone.

And if you’re navigating this in your business journey—whether it’s feeling guilty about charging for your services, setting boundaries with clients, or investing in yourself—I want you to know: it’s okay to put yourself first.

Your Next Step

If this resonated with you and you’re a coach, I want to invite you to a conversation. Inside the Coach Accelerator program, we talk about exactly this, how to build confidence, set boundaries, and grow as a coach without burnout or guilt.

If you’re ready to stop feeling like you have to do everything alone, send me a DM here ➡️ Instagram

Because the moment you stop feeling guilty for putting yourself first…everything changes.